Letting go of a dream

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Dreaming is something we all do, we set ourselves goals to achieve what is in our hearts to make our lives better.  Last year I had to let go of a dream, which I was living in and still working towards. A tough ask, I hear you say. Here now on the other end of it, I am now open to new possibilities and living a more healthy, vibrant life surrounded by more love. Sounds a bit airy-fairy, I know but let me tell you the story.

Four years ago Roy and I fell in love with a block of land in the Sunshine Coast Hinterland, it was 11 acres, flat useable land that had 360′ views from the ocean to the escarpment behind. It was stunning! We bought it even though it was not what we were really looking for but it felt right.

We have both always wanted to live off the land and to share what we know to help others live sustainably. Over the years we connected power, installed tanks, ran a market garden, cooking classes, gardening workshops, ran chickens for eggs and meat. By the end 60% of our food came from our land. We brought our daughter in to this life and she loved it, spending time with the chooks, doing the garden work and socializing with the locals who helped us along the way.

We were living the dream, all that was left was to build our dream house and settle in. The plans were almost finalized when Roy had been offered an interview to work in Northern NSW. He had been applying for jobs since Isla was born all around the world. He was looking for something so that we could all be a family – as being away from his two girls for two weeks at a time was not working for him any longer. Isla was daddy’s girl and they were inseparable. Something had to change.

After having no luck with finding jobs closer to home he extended his search. Eventually hearing back from a company based in the Northern Rivers (where Roy grew up) to work on a power station he passed as a kid and had always wanted to go inside of. He got the job which meant leaving the farm to become townies that live near the beach and rub shoulders with the hippies. It also meant that Isla had grandparents close by and an aunty – Plenty of babysitters!

Letting go of the dream has meant that we have a better life now.

I am sure we will return to the land at some point in time. For now we are living another dream. A life of ease. The farm finally sold earlier this month so we are now only paying rent, bills and living expenses. There are not many outgoing costs to living in a rental compared to farm living. We are in town, I get to walk everywhere, the beach is ten minutes drive away, we have family and friends around us. We are being nurtured as a whole unit which is really special. It has taken me a few months to realize that letting go of that dream for the moment is worth it to have a family that functions and gets to spends each day together.

It is never easy to have to back down from an idea or a dream you have created.

Questions you can ask yourself if you find the need to make a change.

  1. Is what you are currently doing worth it?
  2. Have I outgrown my dream, as we plod through life new things come along to inspire us regularly have you got space for something new?
  3. Is your goal clear and true to yourself. Have one and work towards it not trying to conquer ten at once.
  4. Dreams are for making your life better physically, mentally and emotionally make sure you list the things that will improve as you work towards your new goal.

Tell me have you had to let go of a goal to make way for something better?

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5 Comments

  1. I’m so glad you’re in such a good and happy place WITH your loves. 🙂 That makes all the difference. Yes, I gave up a big dream I had before I met my Bear, but I replaced it with this good, good one. 🙂

  2. It’s wonderful to hear that the change was for the better in many ways. Especially the surrounded by more love! I grew up in a vibrant community in Sydney and then we moved to the Snowy Mountains with our first child just after birth. I feel every thing is so hard here. Growing, food, fitting in, and there is no diversity at all in food or people and I have found the last eight years so very hard and isolating. The boys love it though. Your advice and questions are extremely relevant to my life right now as I have been pondering this so called ‘simple life’. Thank you so much for sharing.

  3. Wonderful post Lizzie .. I. So pleased it has worked out and you are happy